THIS NOTE BEGINS WITH THE PAINS OF OUR DAYS, where the young face battles not with fists or bullets, but with fears of sharp remarks and quick judgments from others. In this fast world of ours, harsh feedback and rushed labels cut deep into your confidence. They leave you stuck in worry and self-doubt. However, learning how to judge and be judged wisely is key to navigating these challenges.
Without the tools to face tough words or the courage to stand your ground firmly, you will hold back from stepping into your true strength. You will hesitate to leave your home and to lift your peers with bold action.
‘NEVER JUDGE’ was a lie THAT destroys YOUR CLEAR VISION
True strength comes from seeing clearly, from observing reality for what it is, from judging honestly. You, as an individual, will forever change. Your inner core runs deep. It shifts with time and trials, and no one can pin it down by any one element, characteristic, or idea that people observe at a glance. The rest of us are exactly the same.
You cannot size up someone’s whole being like you check a simple rule or observe a simple habit. For example, knowing someone for who they really are demands patience to grasp the full picture, if you want to extract their core from their hidden struggles and quiet wins.
Yet if you are honest with yourself, friend, you can see how often you jump to blame. You can notice how frequently you spin stories from half-seen moments of someone else. You let your fears colour your view of that person. We all do that. We label others with marks born from our own shadows. Often, we ignore the weight they carry in silence, or maybe the fights they wage against their inner storms.
PAUSE BEFORE YOU JUDGE
First, pause when you get the itch to point your finger. Next, let the facts unfold. After that, hold back your quick call until you dig into reasons and truths. Do not brand silence as coldness, when silence may be steady faith in those around. Do not call harshly shouted words cruelty when they could be the crack of a load too heavy to speak or share. Don’t label joy and laughter as emptiness when they could shield a broken spirit.
Therefore, dare to ask yourself hard questions, friend, to guard yourself against blind calls: What drives this thought of mine? What shapes my views? Do I chase fairness, or do I judge out of fear? Does my judgment build bridges or create walls of bias and isolation? So, step back when you can, analyse your thoughts first and weigh your aim so that it becomes clear talk instead of idle chatter and gossip.
YOU OPINIONS ARE NOT ALWAYS NEEDED
Mindless labels, meaningless remarks drain your voice of weight. They turn it hollow when trust matters most. A harsh remark from your hidden doubts or twisted facts to prove your point makes you lose your edge. Loose talk for thrills and jokes weakens your credibility and adds a question mark to your future intentions.
Understand that not every action needs judgment. Also, learn that your view on things may carry limitations. Accept that not everything is your business. Know when to stay quiet. Your judgment is not always required. Remember, some paths are not yours to walk—so learn your limits, and choose where your voice lands with real impact.
JUDGE AND BE JUDGED
With all this in mind, friend, do not fool yourself by thinking that you should never judge. There are moments in life when you must judge and when others must judge you. Sometimes you should judge and accept judgment. Indeed, there are moments when just and wise judgment becomes absolutely needed.
Learn to stay strong and mindful. You cannot expect acceptance without the possibility of rejection. Recognition will never come without the discomfort of criticism. And you can definitely not have praise without the sting of harsh judgment.
If you fear judgment, it means you have already judged yourself. Your fear of criticism only shows that you already know your shortcomings. Don’t hide, friend. Have the strength to judge yourself to the highest standards. Then go one step further and accept when others judge you harshly, to the same high standards. Finally, have the humility to accept your flaws and bring them up so that judgment eventually results in praise instead of disrespect.
JUDGE HARSHLY FROM THE HEART
Dare to act with full force on every honest judgment you receive. Only then can you look back one day and proudly say to yourself that you have given it your all. Act so that when you fail and fall apart, you will not be moved by other people’s opinions. After all, you know you gave everything you had. Embrace judgment and accept its power to propel you forward in life.
In all your relationships, with the person you love, with your friends or in business, learn to have patience. Understand the words, the actions, the intentions, and the emotions involved in your interactions. Have dignity and poise. Embrace wisdom and patience. Don’t judge until it is absolutely necessary, but when that moment comes, judge harshly to the highest possible standards.
Cut deeply like a razor and bring forth the weaknesses. Bring out the flaws and share your opinions honestly and with the best intentions. Most importantly, be present and involved when you deliver your resolution.
SHOW TOTAL SUPPORT WITH YOUR JUDGMENT
When you decide to judge, friend, never forget the most important part of judging someone. Bring with your words a dose of support. Don’t make your judgment about being right. Make your judgment about giving a helping hand. By doing this, you will support those around you to crush their fears of being judged and embrace the benefits that come from being able to face criticism.
Be wise and time your tongue. Accept that sometimes your opinion doesn’t matter. Stay just and fair. Judge and allow yourself to be judged at the highest standards. Use your words wisely to bring out the roots of weakness. Be good-hearted and show support whenever you judge, so that others can shake their fear of criticism and deal with their problems.
JUDGE AND BE JUDGED, but be the one who makes the world around you a better place to be in!
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